Imagine the scenario…
You’re kicking up a storm at the office party. Everyone (including the boss) hangs on your every word.
Until you get into that one story, that is. You know, the same one you told your old school friends the other day.
Then, suddenly, crickets. You could hear a pin drop – it’s so quiet.
You ask yourself, “Did I say that?” The truth is that it probably was.
Here’s the thing.
Some topics are perfectly fine for your close friends. But others…
Well, they are simply forbidden. Especially when it comes to chatting and polite conversation.
They are practically taboo.
So if you want to avoid another embarrassing social faux pas, never talk about these six things.
People will find you a much more pleasant person.
1) Topics that only you know about (or are interested in).
I’ll be blunt here.
No one cares about your NFT collection, your obsession with lawnmowers, or your recent vacation in the sun.
Unless they’re animal lovers, they probably aren’t interested in Instagramming your beloved fluffy ball.
If someone asks, it’s perfectly acceptable to talk about your hobbies or interests. That’s only polite. But remember, conversation is a two-way street.
By that I mean, try to keep one-sided or specialized topics to a minimum. Especially if it’s something only you (or a select few) know about.
Also, ask questions back.
Put yourself in their place. Even if they seem relatively interested at the time, it’s not fun to sit there and talk non-stop.
It’s not an office presentation.
Instead, keep it general and pay attention to both verbal and non-verbal social cues which will tell you if they lose interest or not.
This can give you a sense of whether you should continue or end things.
2) Unfounded gossip
We are all guilty of indulging in a some gossip, now and then. It’s basic human nature.
Even if we don’t want to admit it.
While another study from 1993, broken down by gender. Men spend up to 55% and women 67% of their conversation time jumping on the rumor mill.
But if the old saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything” has any truth behind it, maybe gossip isn’t the best topic for small talk.
It makes you look bad.
More so, if you get caught regularly talking about people in a negative light, it won’t take long for people to wonder if you’re talking about them too.
Not to mention, the person you’re gossiping about may know the person you’re cursing very well.
But if you just can’t help yourself, obviously current events, celebrities, or general pop culture acceptable – just nothing personal.
3) Negative self-confidence (or personal problems)
The truth is that we all have our problems. But that doesn’t mean everyone wants to hear about them – all the time.
That’s what therapists are for!
Digging into deeply personal problems it can be devastating for both you and the recipient.
It certainly doesn’t help lift the mood – it’s contagious.
Additionally, always focusing on doom and gloom (or negative self-talk) during social interactions can lead to discomfort or irritation among others.
It’s not a good first impression when you’re at a party or social gathering with people you barely know.
It makes everything seem like it’s about you, you and only you!
4) Money, bills or salary
Money – we all want it, we all need it, and having it (or not) can be the difference between living comfortably or struggling to pay the bills.
For that reason, discussing personal finance, income or debt can be a sensitive topic. Not to mention a source of stress, worry and feelings of inadequacy for some.
Simply put, it is intrusive and inappropriate.
Therefore, when it comes to money mattersit is best to avoid revealing your financial information or prying into other people’s financial situation.
However, it’s okay to ask general questions about their career or aspirations.
Just stay out of their paycheck or bank balance in the process. You don’t need to know every detail of someone’s life – even if it’s well-intentioned.
5) Politics, race or religion
Networking allows you to meet different people from different political, religious and ethnic backgrounds.
Think of it as a cultural exchange.
Yew handle correctlyit can be a wonderful way to learn new customs, exchange different ideas and expand your understanding of the world and the people who live in it.
In short, connect with others on a deeper level.
But here’s the thing.
Polarizing and divisive topics such as politics, race or religion can also send the wrong message in the wrong environment. Especially if you go “all hands”, with strong political or religious beliefs.
In short, it may seem like a little strong or confrontational.
Moreover, things can escalate quickly and easily lead to heated arguments and disagreements.
That’s why many experts suggest avoiding political or religious discussions, especially in a mixed society.
In fact, some go so far as to claim that it does enemies not friends.
However, if any controversial topics arise, aim to be open and respectful of differing opinions to prevent unnecessary tension – and ultimately, to maintain a pleasant atmosphere.
6) Your sex life (or lack thereof)
Listen, I’m happy for you.
Everyone deserves to find that special someone with whom, you know, they “click”. But that doesn’t mean we need to hear every gory detail about how it happened.
Nor do we need a play-by-play since it’s happening – this isn’t the Olympics of Tinder.
The same goes for sexual allusions.
It’s just not appropriate chat. Especially when you’re in a room with a bunch of strangers.
The fact is that, just like other topics, it causes chills. Not to mention, very offensive to some.
So if you want avoid a bad reputation The next time you hang out, never talk about these six things. People will be much more comfortable to be around and move forward.
This goes double for your sex life! Even your friends don’t want to hear about it.